Loneliness & the Holidays
We made it to December. I don't know about you, but for for me this fall seemed to be full of challenges. Most of the personal challenges I faced ended in beautiful results of change. Change can be oh-so uncomfortable, but I'm not sure that I'd like a life of repetition. So as uncomfortable change can be, this year I've really tried to embrace it. One of the major things I learned this year is how far the right attitude can get us. Positivity really does win every single time. It can be really difficult to have a positive outlook on life 24/7 but it sure does make a wonderful difference.
Lately, I've been seeing a lot of loneliness going around. I think everyone who's ever lived can say that in some way or another they have experienced it. The hardest part of loneliness is when you're surrounded by people, or know a lot of people, but still feel like you don't have anyone to turn to. I can't tell if social media is helping with this or making it worse. Perhaps it's making it worse because people "appear" to be doing just fine so we over look reaching out and asking how they've been. A "like" now says "Hi! Hope you're doing well!" instead of a phone call or a message. Thinking about this actually makes me sad, but I am also completely guilty of it. I've often thought about how many people's lives I would miss out on "keeping up with" if I didn't have social media, I'm still wondering if it's a positive or a negative thing. I don't have a complete answer. Of course the amount of time that's spent and the comparisons we tend to make to other peoples lives can't be the best for us. It's very addictive, we all know that. But the truth is, it certainly doesn't have to be. We get to choose what has a hold on us.
It's the holidays, the most wonderful time of year - but it can be the hardest for some people. I just can't help but think how differently we'd all act if each of us had a sign around our necks that said what we've been going through. I just think of how mad I get at cars that fly by me on the interstate doing 90mph - maybe they are trying to get to the hospital. Or the grouchy man at the grocery store - maybe he just lost his job. Or the neighbor who doesn't wave back - maybe they're just having a bad day. We're all guilty of it. I asked my boyfriend the other day the question "if you could get rid of one thing in the world what would it be?" Of course I answered my own question first and I said loneliness. We all have that voice in our heads the says "you should call so-in-so" or "why don't you just take a second to reach out to her or him". I believe that voice is our intuition always letting us know that someone needs a little love.
The holidays can be so hard, but I think that if we really position our hearts to be open to forgiveness, apologies, kindness, love, empathy, and affection, there would be a lot less loneliness this year.