It is so much easier to see where you're headed while facing forward.
Why is it so hard to stop looking back at the past? In my life, it's almost always because there is something I want to change. Whether it's the way someone hurt me, my relationship choices, career moves, or simply missing out on something I knew that I should have done. Getting stuck dwelling on the past is so extremely easy to do.
I think that when we do this often, it becomes a habit, and we start to train our minds to continuously refer back to a certain time or incident. For example, trusting someone. Although we may have gotten hurt, we can't train ourselves to think that everyone who walks into our lives are not trust worthy. If we did that, we would miss out on so many relationships while simultaneously being anxious and afraid that that is actually true. The more we allow our past hurts to dictate what we do, the more they actually will. We wind up with the same continuous calculation but we plug in different things: A new opportunity + past experience baggage = stagnancy.
There are so many different scenarios for this in life. We can't always control what happens to us, but we can control how we are going to respond.
If we are always looking back into the past, we won't ever be able to get where we are headed because we are simply too distracted. Letting go of things is not easy, but it is possible.
Sometimes I talk about journaling, because I believe that writing things out helps clear our mind. I was having trouble letting go of somethings in the past recently so I wrote out a list of everything I was continuously looking back on. One column said "past hurts" the other column I wrote "solutions". When I tried to fill out the "solutions" side, I couldn't. The only solution was that I had to move on; there was nothing else that could fix anything that had happened to me. It was my turn to make my move.
Sometimes we are waiting for an apology. Sometimes we are waiting for another tragedy to come because that is what we are used to. There will always be rain just as certain as there will always be sunshine.
The freedom of letting go of the past will clear our hearts and our minds to look at what is ahead in our beautiful lives. It's our choice to let go and we can do it morning, noon, or night; 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We are waiting on nothing but ourselves to turn our heads back around and take a step forward.